第255課: Can’t Help II: ～てならない, ～てやまない, ～てしかたがない, ～にたえない, & ～てたまらない
This lesson will continue coverage on phrases regarding “not being able to restrain” one’s emotions or feeling. The phrases here with exception to ～にたえない, which is brought up because of ～てこたらない, all use the て form to attach to verbs/adjectives, but be careful about what kind of words they can semantically be used with.
～てならない is found primarily in the written language, though this doesn’t mean you can’t hear it be used in the spoken language, and its purpose is to show that a certain feeling can’t be helped being felt/thought. If the verb, though, does not refer to emotion or something spontaneous, it cannot be used. This pattern, also, does not attach to the negative form.
I can’t help but think it’s strange.
I can’t help but think that it’s going to get worse.
Since it’s already been 10 years since I haven’t been home at my hometown, I can’t help but want to meet my parents.
漢字 Note: 故郷 may also be read as こきょう.
I can’t help but think about my hurting elbow.
I can’t help but sleep when I’m at my boring Japanese class.
I can’t help but be sad every day.
I can’t help but worry about the JLPT.
I can’t help but have the feeling that I’m going to fail.
Warning Note: Do not confuse this with the must/must not pattern ～てはならない.
～てやまない is a somewhat 硬い phrase that is used to show that one will continue to be holding a strong feeling. You just won’t stop. It is used with verbs concerning emotion, but it is not used with emotional verbs that describe temporary states. The grammatical person is usually first person. Understandably, it is not appropriate to attach this phrase to the negative form.
The thing in this picture is a dog that I shall always love.
Parents never stop hoping for their children;s future.
I will continue to be sad over my beloved dog dying.
I will continue to wish for everyone’s happiness.
I can’t stop wishing for you to flourish.
～てしかたがない is very similar to ～てならない, but since it originally referred to there not being a way to withstand or conquer, it gives off a feeling that one can’t stand something while thinking at the same time that there is nothing else that could be done. Therefore, it is also very common in the spoken language. This is unlike ～てならない which is often felt to be quite old-fashioned.
～てならない and ～てしかたがない are different when the verb doesn’t express something spontaneous or emotional, in which case you use ～てしかたがない because nothing is predicated in its definition that it must be used with a verb of emotion. However, this does not mean that ～てしかたがない can’t be used with verbs of spontaneity and or emotion because it still can.
Variant Note: ～しようがない and ～てしょうがない are more casual versions with the latter being the most casual.
It’s no use that it’s already regrettable.
No matter how much I wear, I’m still cold!
Whenever he says (something), I can’t help but hear it that he’s criticizing me.
Since the damn dog barks from early in the morning, it’s annoying as hell.
It can’t be helped that I’m disappointed that I didn’t get drawn.
耐える means ” to endure”. ～に耐える is seen after nouns and verbs of personal attention to show the worth of something. With する verbs, する is dropped. For example, it is used in contexts such as being worth to read, hear, criticize, applaud, value, etc.
～に耐えない, though, has two usages. When used with the 連体形, it means “cannot stand/endure to…”. When used after a noun, it shows a strong emotional reaction in which one can’t hold back such emotions. This may sound very similar to the first usage, but this usage is strictly used with nouns.
Spelling Note: The phrase can also be spelled as に堪えない.
Style/Word Choice Note: It is somewhat of a stiff phrase and used with a limited number of nouns such as 感謝, 感激, 慙愧(shame), 等.
I can’t help but thank you.
She’s a butt-ugly office lady.
To be deeply ashamed of oneself.
I am overwhelmed with emotion from receiving all of you gathering while you are all busy.
I am deeply sorry for you and sympathize with you.
It is truly a matter for great regret.
My dad has an awful manner of singing.
It is something worth appreciating.
Word Note: Again, this phrase is used with limited words such as 見る、聞く、批判、鑑賞、議論、etc.
Although usually left in かな, if you do see this pattern written in 漢字, don’t confuse the reading for the one in ～（に）堪えない. They’re not the same, of course. This is a very common phrase in the spoken language, unlike a lot of the phrases in this lesson, and it is a strong speech style meant to show that one can’t resist a certain emotion, sense, or want.
～てたまらない can’t be used with spontaneous verbs. This is contrast with things like ～てならない and ～てしかたがない. On the other hand, if you are using an adjective that shows an objective degree, ～てたまらない can be used but ～てならない・～てしかたがない can’t.
I can’t stand but want to go back home to Japan.
The muffler of the car next to me is annoying, and I can’t stand it.
The car noise from the parking lot next to me is annoying, and I can’t stand it. I’m at a loss.
I hear that your older brother can’t stand him being bored every day?